I observe people talking a lot about work, but in a very selective way. They talk about what they’re doing, maybe moan about the boss, but rarely say what work really means to them. I believe that’s because work is so important, so personal, so bound up with their sense of self, that it’s too sensitive to talk about.
In the 1990s I led many weekend workshops on the theme Find Your Gift in Work: these groups gave a safe place and structures to explore how work and life can fit, and I feel honoured to have shared so many journeys. These taught me a lot too: here are a few highlights:
- Know what’s holding you back. Do you have doubts or beliefs that limit you in your work? For example, some people believe they should not earn more or succeed more than their fathers…
- Are you re-creating your childhood family at work? I was amazed in my workshops to see how often this happens. For example, were you bullied as a child by your father? Was the family always arguing? Did you have a habitual role, such as the joker or the scapegoat? Any echoes in your current work??
- Reduce your financial needs. It’s easy to feel trapped or pressured about work because of money needs. Cut back on your needs, and free up your choices!
- Understand about human sustainability. I believe that environmental depletion and pollution has close parallels in human work: this is fully explained in my book, The Natural Advantage: Renewing Yourself. If your work is exhausting you, you need a systemic view of the problem and how to change it.
- Believe you can fulfill your passion. First you need the courage to discover your vision, then you need patience and intelligence to make your dream practical. You don’t have to jump off a cliff, you can find the right steps…
Whether you’re in work or out of work, if you’re unhappy about the situation, believe you can change it for the better. And if looking within doesn’t give you the clues, look around you: notice what issues concern or excite you, and explore how you could make a difference.
All of these issues matter even more for most men, as their work is often central to their sense of self. This is one of the issues you could explore on the weekend of August 28-31, at a weekend led by Alan Heeks and Nick Mabey: Manfulness, Mindfulness, Music and more. For full details click here